Talk about a bridezilla...
If you’ve ever had a friend, family member, or acquaintance get married, you know just how big of a deal it probably was for them.
Though the emphasis is usually put on the bride and our pop culture lexicon has us well versed in the concept of “bridezillas,” a wedding is a huge deal for women and men alike as brides or grooms toil to ensure that their special day is one they will never forget and filled with memories they can cherish forever.
But no one ever said putting together the perfect wedding was easy. For the family, friends, and even the professional team involved, a wedding is an enormous endeavor, and that’s before we even get to, you know, the vows you make for life. From chiseling down the guest list without insulting anybody to choosing the perfect date, booking that magical venue, trying your favorite caterer and cake, and of course, finding that perfect dress, weddings are big productions, and while it’s sure to be a day you won’t forget, rest assured your bank account won’t forget it either!
Between money and all the family drama that can come about whenever a wedding takes place, it’s safe to say that even the happiest of days can have their dark side. That’s exactly what happened to one man who tried his best to give his girlfriend and stepdaughter everything they dreamed for the young woman’s special day. But, like happens in so many cases of people thinking only about themselves, even his best wasn’t enough. What happens when you mix a selfish, ungrateful stepdaughter-turned-bridezilla with a fed up stepdad? It turns out that this wedding day from heck was more than one man could handle.
Oh, it’s definitely a day no one will ever forget, only not for the reason they hoped…
Anyone who has ever been involved in planning understands the level of sheer stress that goes into virtually every aspect of it. Even the slightest mistake or inconvenience can send someone flying off the handle, especially the bride, groom, or an immediately family member.
As his stepdaughter’s wedding drew closer, one anonymous man was trying his hardest to give her everything she could possibly want for her big day. Of course, this mean that he was shelling out as much cash as was required since neither the bridge-to-be or her mother (the man’s girlfriend) had an income. Aside from that, things seemed to be going smoothly, save for one recurring problem in the girl’s life. Here’s what the stepfather, who goes by godzilla_moon on Reddit, had to say:
“My step-daughter will be getting married on August 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother’s life (I say her mother because we aren’t married, though we’ve lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.
“My step-daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.
“From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend’s fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.”
It’s normal for anyone living in this woman’s situation to deal with the stress of respecting both biological and stepparents equally, even if someone continuously lets their children down over the years. Little did godzilla_moon know what would happen next!
Dad vs. Dad
“The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you know, since I was paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they’d take care of it. So I let these people know they’d be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn’t invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad’s name and her mom’s name and not mine.
“This led to a pretty big fight with my GF, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty ‘made the cut’ for the final guest list because ‘250 people is very tight.’ I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said ‘if some people didn’t rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in.’ But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.
“Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in-law’s family and us and a surprise guest, the ‘Real Dad.’ At this little dinner my step-daughter announced that her ‘Real Dad’ was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he’d be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of ‘Oh how great’ and ‘How wonderful’s.
“I don’t think I have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to gather my composure, because I honestly wasn’t sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I’d be able to speak I got up from my chair and said I’d like to make a toast. I can’t remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this:”
Oh boy. Could you even imagine how this had to feel for the stepfather who had showered the bride-to-be with expensive presents and the basic respect of being there for her since she was a child? Uncomfortable familial situation and awkward ego insult aside, the stepdad was paying for the whole wedding! It’s totally understandable if the people getting married cover the whole bill themselves that they can do whatever they want, but if the guy was giving them everything they wanted in exchange for a few friends being there, it definitely seems like the stepdaughter and girlfriend were treating him like trash in exchange… You just KNOW this toast is going to be good!
“‘I’d like to make a toast.’ The sound of spoons against glasses ring in my years. ‘It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years.’ Awe, how sweet. ‘At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important.’ Confident smiles exchanged. ‘They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was.’ And now a glimmer of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room. ‘Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen.’ I finished my drink. ‘You all can let yourselves out.'”
MIC. DROP. We couldn’t imagine having the guts to do something like this dad did in front of the family. Imagine sitting at that table! How would you even react? Lucky for us, godzilla_moon followed up with what happened next…