Love is a verb that you act on every day
Always give your partner the benefit of the doubt. When they say or do something that you have a knee-jerk, negative reaction to, take a moment to remember that you married them because they are a good person, who loves you. Would a good person, who loves you, purposefully choose to do something solely to hurt or offend you? Hopefully, the answer is no.
I’ve avoided about a billion little fights that could have turned big simply by taking a moment to give my partner the benefit of the doubt, and following it up by checking in. “Hey, when you said, ‘BLANK’, what did you mean? I’m not sure I got what you were going for”, or something like that. Ninety nine percent of the time, there was no ill intent on my partner’[s] part, but if I’d reacted immediately with my knee-jerk hurt/anger, a non-issue would have ended up in a pointless, painful fight. (Nancy1784)
Talk to each other! If you are upset, tell them why and discuss it. Wanna have kids? Talk about it (preferably before the wedding). Finances, talk about those b**ches!!! Talk about retirement 30+ years before you need to. My husband and I have been planning retirement since 1999.
Withholding leads to resentment. Resentment has no place in a life long commitment. (Rahallahan)
Try to “out serve” one another. You’re on the same team.
You try to be more selfless and caring than your partner at all times. Your husband made your coffee this morning? Awesome! How about you pack his lunch? Your wife vacuumed your car for you? Great! Wash and vacuum hers. Your boyfriend forgot your birthday? That’s okay. You will be sure to remember his. (nachotypicalchick)