And other dads agree!
Being a parent is hard. Being a single parent to children of the opposite gender is even harder. Yet, there are those out there who have taken to the role with everything they’ve got. Redditor allthekos laid out his rules for being a single dad to girls who are growing up so fast, and other parents are buzzing about his true-to-life advice.
“I have two daughter’s (9 and 13), the eldest has Aspergers and mental health problems… Here are some things I have learned over the years!” he begins. Keep reading.
“A rabid starved pit bull is less aggressive than a teenage girl with PMS and autistic challenges. The combination of hormones, unreasonable and unrealistic ideas of the world make for a very volatile combination,” the dad-of-two stated matter-of-factly. “Any trivial thing can descend into a 20-minute argument.”
While things can get quite chaotic in the house, he has a few tricks to get things going as smoothly as possible. Being prepared is the most essential key to his well-running household.
”Get home from work, do all the jobs, get all the clothes ready for the morning. That way in the morning you can all just get up and dressed and out,” he shared. “I’ll even put out their cereal bowls and spoons ready for breakfast. Nobody likes mornings. And if you do, you are insane.”
As much as he prepares his daughters for their day, he makes it a point to refrain from doing everything for them, believing that they’ll never learn how to do stuff for themselves that way. Not only does Reddit user allthekos give his daughters responsibilities, he gives them games that help with mental stimulation.
“Teach them to be independent. It makes your life easier. Mine can now get their own drinks and snacks, and on Sunday my only day off will get up and make their own breakfast so I can have a lie in,” he explained of his strategy. “If you can’t afford Lego, get Minecraft. Both encourage imagination.”
Of course, teaching independence and strong mindedness isn’t all there is to raising young women. When it came to things like doing hair and dealing with periods, this dad had to learn the hard way. His struggle has become the basis for the wisdom he is currently doling out though:
“Doing hair when you have always shaved your head is one of the hardest things to learn ever. I can do a ponytail and a plait. I’m trying to learn other styles but it’s very difficult. Sanitary towels. Just buy a load of them. Ask the lady in the shop for help. Stock up so they don’t have to ask you for them.”
While he’s offering the internet solid advice, Allthekos admits that he wasn’t a “natural parent.” He surely wasn’t the biggest fan of babies either, but he’s appreciating his daughters more and more as they grow older.
Not only are they more self-sufficient, he has more time to himself. “Make sure you get a few hours to yourself at night. I might be a parent 24/7 but that doesn’t mean i can’t kill it on the Xbox!” he wrote. “I really enjoy now that they are older and can talk and have opinions and are becoming their own little selves.”
All the Love in the World
Parents loved the advice that this single dad doled out. They thanked him for his hard-won words, and they offered others some advice of their own.
User TheDevilsAdvokaat commended the use of the game Minecraft to spur imagination (and not having thousands of Legos all over the floor). “Minecraft is really the Lego of this era. It allows children to play using their imagination,” he began. “We have a shared Minecraft server that me, my daughter and my son (8) play on. Have tried to get mum interested too but no success.”
Naturally, allthekos isn’t the only father out there braving the feminine hygiene section of the store to purchase pads and tampons for his daughters. According to one user, it really helps out when the daughters can tell their fathers exactly what to get so that they can purchase months-worth of period products at once.
“My dad would go to Costco and buy tampons and pads in bulk, and that helped a lot. The sea of teenage hormones is a difficult one to traverse,” offered ViperBunny.
Finally, DysfunctionalBee32 shared that there’s no one like her father in her life. Though things may be difficult now, the girls are sure to turn out just fine with the love of their dad as their support system.
“My dad raised me from my early teen years on. He’s my rock, my hero, and my best friend. At 39, I still look to him for advice, help with car trouble, and general rant sessions. Your daughters are lucky to have you and will grow into wonderful, strong women because of it.”
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