The Healing Power of Love and Intimacy
Perhaps you don’t want anyone to know that you’re 30 and still a virgin. Maybe you think its best if no one knows that you really want to make love, but you can’t get there physically. Possibly you’re hiding the fact that you’re just way too nervous about doing it to even talk to someone you’re interested in. These types of issues can be a roadblock in your journey of life, but it may seem like there’s nothing that can be done to help.
However, there are some medical professionals who help people through a controversial therapy called surrogacy partnering. A surrogacy partner works alongside your therapist to release you of your sexual inhibitions so that you can lead a happy, healthy, satisfying life. How do they do it? Keep reading.
The groundbreaking sexual researchers Masters and Johnson first wrote about using sexual surrogates in their 1970 book Human Sexual Inadequacy. They believed that a trained surrogate under the watchful eye of a therapist could help alleviate fear, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy by basically teaching a patient how to do the deed and feel intimacy.
Since that time, therapists have reached out to people for their services as surrogate partners to help out people struggling with sexual, physical, and mental issues.
One doctor in Tel Aviv, where sexual surrogate therapy is well-known, believes that this service helps people without romantic partners break through barriers they may have keeping them from getting into relationships so they can lead fulfilling lives.
Dr. Ronit Aloni explained, “Sex therapy is by definition couples therapy, and those people who don’t have a partner can’t have the therapy. Surrogacy allows us to do the ethical thing and provide therapy to the people who need it.”
He continued, “It’s not really about sex. I sometimes tell my staff that we’re really an anxiety clinic.” Patients seeking such services can suffer from a myriad of problems like sexual frustration, the inability to remain erect, impotence, or just the inability to connect with the opposite sex. The therapy is about raising confidence in the patient. It’s also used for people who have suffered injuries and need guidance to learn how to have satisfying sex again.
An anonymous sexual surrogate in Israel said, “Maybe it sounds like a cliché, but I have an ability to love and not be afraid of being compassionate. I cuddle the patients in a very, very secure place and let them grow. I don’t like humanity to suffer.”