It should be obvious to people by now
Stay-at-home mom-of-three and social commentator Annie Nolan has one son and four-year-old fraternal twin girls. She knows she’s been blessed, but the blessing of twins can feel like a curse some days when she constantly gets stopped by people wanting to know everything about her girls. Annie, who goes by the social media handle Uncanny Annie, desperately tried to find a way to deflect those pesky questions, and it’s blowing up the internet.
Annie posted a photo of her adorable girls in a stroller with two signs that answer the most common questions people would stop to ask. She wrote about the stunt, “I REALLY wanted to leave these signs on the pram today. As a twin mum, you get asked a series of questions/hear a series of statements EVERYTIME you go out.
“I know most people are coming from a great place and are just curious however many can be quite intrusive and after a while it’s just plain exhausting. And since I was heading into the city, I knew the questions would be coming thick and fast… but I chickened out on the train and took them off!”
She added, “P.S- it is a joke people.”
Interestingly, people were both seriously supportive of her efforts while others said that she should be grateful that people are taking such an interest in her precious children. Sammi Walker replied to Annie’s post, saying, “Two cute!! You’re very blessed!! I have always been fascinated by the miracle of twins and have lots of questions!… Spare a thought… having a quick chat to you and engaging with your two gorgeous little girls might just make someone’s day! Someone who isn’t as fortunate as you.”
Uncanny Annie explained that she does enjoy talking about her twins to strangers most of the time. “That is exactly what I always think! And I suppose that is why it can be exhausting. I hate to hurt anyone’s feelings or be rude and just cut them off so I always obligingly run through my answers,” she said. “I do find it shocking when people ask about IVF, fertility drugs, did I think or aborting 1 etc. 80% of people are fantastic and the 20% can leave you feeling a bit cross. I always try to give people my time though.”
Emma Burnham is a friend of a twin mom, so she’s seen so many people ask rather ridiculous questions. She said, “Great work Annie…a friend has twins… boy and girl and she gets asked if they’re identical!!!!”
Uncanny Annie responded, “That is SO common! I have a friend that gets the same thing all the time. Some people need to go back and do year 7 biology!”
Annie realized that other moms of multiples have so many questions thrown at them every single day; she was glad to see their support. She wanted to dole out some more information about her twins so that they know how truly happy she is just to have them in her life. She wrote, “So glad to see so many people that have multiples in their family (and friends group) able to have a laugh and relate to this. I’m sure it is something you can only understand if you have been through it. So many of your comments have had me in stitches!
“And for people saying that I should be ‘grateful’ or that it is a first world issue etc. I hear you. Of course it is! I am grateful EVERYDAY for my children and I have deep perspective of what is serious and trivial in life. This is a photo of my twins when they were born (27weekers.) We spent months fighting for their lives. When they were finally able to go home I realised life was meant to be enjoyed and they are the ones that taught me to laugh at the small stuff. Hence, this photo of them with the signs.”
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