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14 Valuable Lessons Real People Learned From Break-Ups

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“Breaking up is hard to do.”

Yeah, yeah. We’ve heard it before, bub. That simple statement doesn’t encompass all the fights, heartbreaks, hurt feelings, loneliness, betrayal, and regrets. While going through a break-up is one of the most emotionally painful things we go through, we often do turn out a better person. Sure, we may go through a period of self-destruction where we indulge in vices a little too much, but we can also learn awesome things: how to communicate, compromise, act like an adult, value what we have, listen and be responsible and accountable. Redditors who have been through the wringer share their insights on break-ups.

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Learn before you begin again

The Weakest Link

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The person who wants the relationship the least has the most power. (survivalothefittest)

Jordie says: This is a damn hard reality. Someone who isn’t as invested calls all the shots. You can’t force someone to love you. Unless you’re good with voodoo.

Time Keeps on Slippin’

sad woman hands on head

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Don’t waste too much time on a relationship where the love doesn’t go both ways (theus3)

Jordie says: It’s easy to stay in relationship because you’re comfortable, don’t want to rock the boat or don’t want to deal with finding a new mattress. That just makes you lazy af. You’re not doing either of you any favors. Also, you’re not getting any younger, so don’t ever settle.