No wedding day is absolutely perfect
You can plan, push, and make everything perfect, but you truly have no idea what kind of chaos will befall your wedding day. Any number of things can go wrong that you didn’t plan for. People can even work against you, trying to make your big day all about them.
The important thing to remember is that it’s your special day, and you should do what you want. You don’t have to cater to everyone else’s demands (especially those of the typical meddling mother-in-law). Take the advice of these wedded couples… They can’t redo their wedding, but maybe they can save you before you follow in their footsteps!
The Tiniest Details
For those wondering how to avoid this: Get married as soon as you can after the proposal. When the engagement is short, the napkin conversation goes like this:
Bride: What about the napkins?
Groom: We should have napkins.
Bride: Okay! (eyal0)
A receiving line. We put my mother-in-law in charge of everything because we were getting married in my husband’s home town, but we were in school in a different state. She wanted a receiving line and we didn’t fight her on it.
Turns out she invited the entire city. We didn’t get to eat the catered food, didn’t get to dance, didn’t even get to cut our cake. They started serving and eating our cake because we were stuck in the foyer of the reception hall shaking hands with hundreds of people we didn’t know and would never meet again.
I cannot stress enough, just don’t do a receiving line. (lozlemonsnightcheese)
My Husband’s Wedding
We wanted a tiny wedding; immediate family and close friends only. My MIL invited her siblings and my spouse’s deceased father’s siblings. We were too polite to uninvite them.
So the group was lopsided enough that the toasts were 80% about my spouse. My boss, who didn’t know me that well, noticed the disparity and made a toast about me. The whole thing ended up looking like it was my spouse’s wedding, and I’d been invited to attend. (tinyahjumma)