It's hard to disagree when you're surrounded by hate
Attitudes about sexual orientation and gender roles are rapidly changing, but there are still many people who believe that not living a cis-het lifestyle is just plain wrong somehow. Those type of people aren’t necessarily unable to change the way they think, though. They just need the right circumstances to begin seeing things a different way. These people were once totally against any kind of homosexuality until something happened that made them accept it fully.
I used to be like “it’s wrong because it’s not natural! If it was natural you’d be able to procreate!” Then a co-worker was like, “Well my wife and I choose not to procreate does that make us unnatural?” And I’m like, “No you’re good,” and he said, “What about infertile people who can’t have children, are they unnatural?”
And I’m like, “Well they didn’t choose to be infertile,” and he said “Well what makes you think gays would choose to be gay if it’s so much harder to live like that?” And now my wife and I are infertile. (WunDumGuy)
My Own Issues
I used to speak out against gay rights/gay marriage because I hated who I was. I liked guys, but I liked girls too, and my dad taught me that was wrong and un-Christian.
Then I accepted myself. (PandaProphetess)
Doesn’t Add Up
My family was/is more like casually homophobic. They would sometimes make remarks about how it’s disgusting, and they would go to hell. They said the same thing about black people and Jews were of course the ultimate evil.
Once I started to think for myself, I realized that their reasoning didn’t add up. Men weren’t better than women, no black person has ever harmed me and one of my best friends was Jewish. Made me think about what else they were bull crapping me about, and after a little bit of thinking, came to the conclusion that being gay is completely fine.
Also, having been born in a country where being gay will literally get you killed, the whole ‘they choose it’ BS didn’t make any sense. I would never willfully choose something that could get me disowned, abused or murdered, why would they?
So yeah, by the time I was 12, I was an atheist and didn’t believe in any of the religious/cultural crap they had tried to feed me. (Morigyn)