Sorry bud, no explanation is "good" enough
All Good Now
“I recognize what I’m doing isn’t wrong, selfish, and s**tty. But when I was prepared to tell the truth after the second week of my infidelity the most bizarre thing happened, my girlfriend began to have more sex me and keeps telling me about how confident I’ve been lately.
“I know cheating makes me a slime ball, yet I haven’t felt remorseful about it. Nowadays I feel like nothing is wrong with the world, and life is more enjoyable. The relationship with my girlfriend has improved because of my increased confidence and I don’t get jealous anymore when she goes out to ‘bars’ with her girlfriends. Because of cheating, I feel fulfilled and all my needs are taken care of.”
He asks, “Does anybody have any guidance for my issue?”
It should be quite obvious at this point that his story ruffled a lot of feathers. It didn’t take long for the proud cheater to receive comments like, “Guidance: come to terms with being a bad person. A really really bad person,” offered by VictorPumpenstein and, “The weird thing is, if you had, say, gotten help to deal with your jealousy, which then improved your confidence, the same thing would have happened. It’s not the cheating that’s some magic balm, it’s the way you’re acting. Don’t kid yourself about the ends somehow being worth the means; you’re being outstandingly selfish. The only right thing to do is tell the truth and accept whatever comes of it,” by unsaferaisin.
He also had a few words of praise from people that are probably as terribly misguided and confused as he is.
User mateo2450 said, “I’m going to take a different stance than the other free thinkers that replied to you. You said your girlfriend flirts a lot. Fine. She loves being the center of attention. You go girl! She enjoys being hit on by men. If you got it, flaunt it, right?
“So – for all you know – she’s enjoying all the attention and maybe more. Maybe that’s why you were only having sex 2 times per month – because she’s getting her needs met on the side.
“Bottom line is this – you’re not married. You moved in together, yes. But she’s going out and doing god knows what. Now she sees a more confident you, likes what she sees, and wants more of it.
“As long as you take public health precautions in this regard – I say go for it. Two people in a relationship getting their needs met. Go figure. You shouldn’t be punished for it. I say go for it.”