Father of the Year
Having a baby can be one of the most exciting times of a person or couple’s life, but any parent will tell you that it’s one of the most challenging times as well.
While we may associate babies with showers, gifts, prepping the nursery, and preparing to make countless memories, we may not think of the more difficult aspects of bringing a child into the world. And although for many women, the physically taxing act of giving birth may be the hardest part, that’s just the beginning of the struggle for many others.
About 15% of women experience postpartum depression (PPD) after childbirth, with an onset anywhere between one week and several months after delivery. Though not yet fully understood, experts attribute PPD to hormonal changes associated with pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, as well as sleep deprivation, which can turn one’s experience of PPD into a serious mood disorder.
And while 1—26% of new fathers can also experience postpartum depression, it is often up to these dedicated husbands or partners to help in the new mother’s time of the need for her sake, the sake of the baby, and for the whole family. Fathers were asked what they did to help out when their wives suffered from PPD, and this is what they had to say!
Day and Night
Honestly, I was just there for her and our new baby. I encouraged her to get professional help, and to take the sleeping medication as prescribed (she did, eventually). I tried to reinforce the idea that her body is going through huge hormonal changes postpartum, and her feelings are a valid byproduct of that, despite them being horrible. Also that it will end.
Should add, I was a walking zombie for about two months. At the time, I was the sole income earner, and my wife was medicated at night. I worked all day then took over at home, all meals, all diaper changes, all bottles. (Breast feeding was out due to meds.) I say this not for props, but for you to watch out for you too. Once your wife is “back”, you need to do what you can to depressurize. (ComeAbout)
All the Chores
Chores bro. All the f*cking chores. Do hella chores. Be considerate and think about chores you don’t normally do. Scrub the bath tub and buy her a nice soap thing so she can have a relaxing bath while the baby is down. Clean the fridge, like actually clean it.
Do hella chores.
And rub her feet.
And listen to her but don’t press if she doesn’t want to talk.
And be patient. (johnwalkersbeard)
Rockabye and Goodnight
My wife didn’t know that I took the baby to the other side of the house every night while he cried. She still thinks he came home from the hospital sleeping through the night. (DougWeaverArt)
I actually teared up a little bit at this. You’re a good husband. (99_red_balloons_)
This is the sweetest thing I’ve seen in a while. You’re a great partner (Simple2244)