Love is a verb that you act on every day
It may seem to you that hardly anyone can keep a relationship these days. There’s too much temptation to cheat using dating apps and social media, and it can be hard to support a family in this economy. So what’s the point of falling in love with one person and getting married? Any married person will tell you that marriage is definitely hard work, but the reward can be immense. Take the advice of these married people if you want to have a long-lasting marriage just like them.
Communication is Key
Learn how to communicate with each other – don’t just shout each other down during an argument.
No matter how close and “in tune” you are with each other, talk plainly. Don’t expect the other one can read your mind. Be honest, and don’t be cruel – you’ll want to hurt each other when you’re angry and that’s not fair. Don’t do that. Calm down, figure out why you’re upset and come from a place where you can explain that without bringing up past grievances or hurt feelings. (femmeVerte)
Stand By Your Partner
Don’t make fun of each other or run each other down in public.
This really is something that we decided to do for each other when we first married 19 years ago. One of us even said, “We will EDIFY each other, not tear each other down.” It’s served us well, and now and then someone will compliment our marriage. (spit_in_my_eye)
Treat your spouse better than you treat strangers. We have had friends who were polite to service people and distant acquaintances, but skipped the manners with their spouse. They’re all divorced or no longer together. Please and thanks you and showing appreciation goes a long way.
If your spouse is the most important person in your life, treat them that way. All those little shows of respect and caring add up over the months and years. 27 years after our wedding, we say thank you and please and I’m sorry a dozen times a day. He’s still my best friend and sweetest baboo. (Toirneach)