What's a man in love to do?
Though the word “incest” makes most people cringe immediately, the lines are blurred when it comes to step-siblings — especially those who didn’t spend their childhoods together. They aren’t related by genetics, they don’t feel like actual siblings, and they know each other very well. Step-siblings can’t often develop deep feelings for each other due to their closeness.
Reddit user ohnothrowawayy asked his fellow internet users to help him figure out his relationship with his step-sister. He’s in love with her, but she doesn’t know it yet.
His mother met a man nearly 15 years ago at his high school. The parents married and moved in, and they became a family of four. The new step-siblings didn’t know each other well at first, but quickly forged a friendship.
It was after their parents started leaving them at home together for a few days to travel that he developed feelings for her. “Naturally, I developed a crush on this new cute girl who was always around me. I tried very hard to repress it, but it was hard for me. We were physically and emotionally very intimate, like we’d known each other our entire lives,” he wrote.
The step-siblings drifted apart over the next few years. They went to different colleges, had relationships, and lead separate lives. After graduating and seeing more of each other, those old feelings returned. Fate would eventually bring them even closer which has led him to a dilemma.
“About two years ago, our parents came into some money and decided to surprise [her] and I with an apartment. So now we live together. It has gotten unbearable.” He explained that they are physically playful, lean on each other while watching TV, and text all day long. On occasion, they sleep in the same bed. However, they have not kissed or done anything sexual.
“Part of me wants to say something, the other part of me would be totally inconsolable if something went wrong,” he wrote is his confession. “But she understands me so well I’d be surprised if a part of her didn’t already know.”
He has been seeing a therapist says his feelings are pretty typical of step siblings, but he feels like he should totally cut off their relationship because he feels it’s unnatural even though he wants to be with her.
Go For It
Most of his readers said that he should be honest about his feelings and see if she was interested in him. “You’re not blood related, met later in life, and if she feels the same way I don’t see why this should be an issue. It’s no different to me than having feelings for your roommate or a close friend you moved in with,” commented upupupandthrowaway0.
Some said that he should start the conversation by making casual jokes about their relationship and gauging her response. He that he didn’t think that would work:
“Jokes like that have been made by friends/co-workers, we’re an old married couple. We check in late at night if we’re both out and I think that throws people. I think with her a joke would not go over well since we have a distinct joking language/world and this wouldn’t get its due.”
Taking the Leap
After much careful consideration and deliberation, he decided to tell the love of his life how he felt.
He edited his post saying that he sent her a screenshot of his Reddit post and that he was having extreme anxiety over what she might do next. He wanted to keep whatever happened next his business, and he deleted his post.
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