Not everyone was meant to be a parent
A child may be a blessing to some people, but to others children can be the ultimate burden. Having your life revolve around the care of another person (who may or may not understand what you’re giving up for them) can definitely be tough; this reality explains why birth rates are down among most of the civilized world. Getting married and having babies is no longer the center of our society, and raising a child is not as detrimental to the survival of our species as it used to be.
It would seem that people just don’t have time, money, or energy after working long hours to support themselves, much less a little one. Plenty of parents out there will tell you that they should have never had a child, for the sacrifices cost them far too much. Here are a few parents in particular.
I feel like it has destroyed my marriage. Both of us have changed since our child was born and I’m afraid the people we’ve become are not as compatible as the people we used to be. We never talk to each other, we never do anything together, and the very, very infrequent sex is basically her attempt to maintain her ability to claim she makes an effort in our relationship. Any communication that happens between us is about logistics regarding our child.
I understand there is a brief period after birth where everyone needs to adjust but it has been over 4 years now.
I love my child more than anyone else on Earth, save for my wife. But I miss having a companion in life. If I had known it would be like this, I don’t think I would have made the same decisions. (LoveMyKidMissMyWife)
Not About Me
I never get a minute to myself. As an introvert this is the hardest part.
I see my friends going on exciting vacations, doing whatever they want to do. I can’t because kids are so expensive that we can’t afford to go anywhere.
I haven’t slept past 6 in years.
I’m stuck in a place I don’t want to live in. (jerkstore13)
I wasn’t ready to stop being selfish. I’m only two years in so it’s still the intense stage, but parenting so far has just been relentlessly exhausting. I feel like having a kid closed off a lot of possibilities for me, definitely killed any semblance of spontaneity in my life. (camelican)