The only victims are the kids
No matter what you do, someone will always tell you that you’re raising your kid wrong. It’s a fact of life, and it’s become even more obvious since the dawn of parenting forums on the internet. Heck, it’s not even safe to post updates about or pictures of your kids on social media anymore, lest someone start attacking you over the clothes your kids are wearing, the snack they’re enjoying, or the bubbles in their bathwater.
Behind all this criticism is the simple truth that people are generally somewhat unhappy and somewhat full of themselves, so it’s easier to attack another person over their parenting choices—or choices in general—than to accept that their way is not the only way to raise a child. Angry and fragile as they may be, they deserve to be loved, anyway.
But sometimes the behaviors we see other parents employing might be truly alarming. And I’m not talking anything physical or illegal; no, these behaviors go deeper. You should be able to raise your children any way you want within the limits of the law, but not all parenting techniques are created equal, and these common behaviors may be the worst of all.
The Writing on the Wall (or Floor, or Couch)
1) They let their kids be messy in a public space then 2) don’t clean up after them.
One time I was at the salon and a woman brought her 2 young kids with her. They were eating Wendy’s going crazy. There was salt all over the floor and mayo on the couch. Someone said “oh I think your daughter might’ve got ranch on the couch.” And the mom says, unfazed, “it’s mayo.” (catsandslayer)
I absolutely hate this. It disgusts me deeply when adults disrespect public places by being messy and allowing their kids to be messy, because “it’s not my job to clean it up” and “Someone else will clean it”. (Teddytears)
Not following through on threatened punishment. If your kid’s acting like a dillhole and you continually say “Stop that, or I’m going to take that away/we’re going to have to sit in the car for a time-out/we will be leaving”, eventually you actually have to deliver when they continue to do it. If you don’t, you’re just training your kid to stop doing the idiot thing just long enough for you to get distracted. (Emulocks)
My friend allowed his toddler to watch some cartoon on his laptop, but the toddler started punching the laptop (naturally). My buddy threatened to take it away if the punching continued, and the kid piped down for a second, but when he did it again, dad took the laptop away… and gave it right back when the kid started wailing.
I’m not kidding, he repeated this process no less than four times.
And he wonders why his child makes his life miserable. Watching that was eye-opening. (VaticanTwoTheSequel)
Terrible diet and let them do anything just to keep them from crying. (Mouler)
No idea why some parents view a kid crying as the end of the world. And they generally buy them off with toys or something, spoiling them even further.
Kids cry, big deal, let’em cry sometimes. They won’t die. (TheGoodJudgeHolden)
Speaking as a mother it’s occasionally out of embarrassment. I have to weigh what the crying or tantrum is about, how much longer I need to be in said location, the proximity of others. He’s not quite 2 yet so we spend some time explaining feelings and trying diffuse but it doesn’t always work. (Seattlegal)