It's not always what it seems!
In most Western cultures, the ideal marriage comes after finding a “soulmate,” dating to make sure they’re the right one, and deciding to settle down together. However, that simply isn’t the case in all cultures. It is the tradition of many that marriages are arranged by family members for financial or social gain, and for some, they don’t spend much time getting to know their future spouse before the wedding.
Most people have a conception of arranged marriages as being forced or unstable, but these people opened up about their personal experience with their traditions — and they’re more positive than we thought!
I got married a month ago to a man I had only spoken to twice when we got religiously married. 9 months later (an engagement period) we were legally married. We were in a long distance relationship on two opposite sides of the country. He visited me twice. I am 19 years old and when I tell people I’m married they are very taken aback. Just yesterday a girl told me that my life is over. But I have to say that I have never been happier. I love my husband very much. He is kind, thoughtful, intelligent, and I don’t think I could have found a better man on my own.
Thankfully we got along great and had a lot of the same interests. Things we did not agree with took a lot of compromising on both sides.
Another thing I’d like to point out is that when I tell people I’m married they usually assume I’m married to a 40 year old gross guy. When I show them a picture of us they always make it a point to call us a beautiful couple 🙂 (stripedglasses)
We actually don’t getting along. Our personalities are complete opposites. I personally like it quite [sic] around home and have time to myself, but my husband likes to have guests all the time and it is really annoying. Not to mention that he is messy while I like to keep stuff clean and organized. (90848762759508098401)
It’s terrible. I blame 90 percent of my mental health problems on my parent’s never ending bickering. I wish I had parents that loved each other, or atleast parents that would consider a divorce an option. Don’t let the rest of this subreddit upvoting feel good stories fool you guys. Arranged marriages […] are f–king terrible most of the time. (B0yyyy)