Monogamy isn't for everyone!
Some people argue that monogamy is not for everyone. Some even say that it is unrealistic, or that humans were not designed to be monogamous. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live in a polygamous relationship or family? Redditors revealed what it is like to be in a polygamous relationship, how they began, and also what it is like to be born into polygamy. Keep reading to get all the details you could possibly want!
Mine started seven years ago… I had a horrible break up with my then boyfriend which left me spending a ton of time with my friend and her boyfriend. One thing led to another and I really began to fall for her hard… One drunken night we hooked up… Her boyfriend was there and was very happy to be a part of it lol. Over time it became clear she and I were not a one time thing… She was still with him and she and I were together. Then, totally unexpectedly over the next year he and I became much closer. I fell hard for him too. We talked a lot and ended up trying all three of us together… That was 6 years ago. We’re all madly in love now and very happy together.
I was raised in a Muslim family. Islamic law allows a man to have 4 wives. My father was married to my mother for 25 years. When I was a teenager my mother found out he was married to another woman in another country. My father would go on many “business” trips and it turns out he was really just visiting his second wife. My mother was extremely angry when she found out and went to the US courts to get a divorce. But in Islam, the man has the power of divorce. In order for a woman to obtain a divorce she has to go through an Islamic judge or in a case where we live in the US with no Islamic judges around, an Imam. Well the local imams didn’t think she had reason to be granted a divorce since polygamy is allowed in Islam… I tried to convince her to forget about the Islamic divorce and just divorce him by the US courts, take half of their property, and never speak to him again. But of course she didn’t feel like she could go against the Islamic way. So eventually she kinda grew to accept it… We all hated my dad for the longest time. He finally divorced his second wife and after a few years we really haven’t forgiven him but he lives far away anyway. (polytaway)
High School Sweetheart to Sisterwife
My dad had three wives and he married them each 10 years apart. His first wife was his high school sweetheart, his 2nd wife (my mom) he met at church, and his 3rd wife he also met at church.
Imagine you are a young woman in love, you get married at 18, are madly in love with your husband, and have a couple of his kids by age 27. Then suddenly, without much warning, he starts courting a big-tittied 18 year old from church. And instead of getting sympathy from your parents and siblings, they start congratulating you on finding such a wonderful sister wife. You have nobody to grieve to. You have to watch your love-struck husband and his pretty bride while you change shitty diapers and mop the floors.
I used to hate my mom’s older sister wife because she treated me like dirt. Then when I got older I started seeing it from her perspective (this was after I fell in love with my own husband). So I don’t really blame her for not liking my mom’s kids.
In case you’re curious, the 3rd wife was disabled and not very pretty. My dad married her because he knew his first wife could not handle another beautiful, young wife. Also, the disability check from the government was a bonus for our family. He didn’t have any kids with wife #3, she was just kind of around. But she was really helpful and sweet. (polygamythrowaway)