Lotte will be lonely no more!
If you look at Lotte Brouwer’s social media, you’ll see a happy woman and little white dog promoting Pinterest-perfect meals and modern room designs. As we all know, that doesn’t necessarily mean that Lotte’s life is as picturesque as she makes it seem. Social media has a way of showing off someone’s best moments without divulging the mundane or even sad moments. Your nights out, your fancy dinners with friends, and your best travel photos are prominently displayed yet people may never know about all the stressors you deal with on an everyday basis.
Among all of the gorgeous photos she posted on Twitter, Lotte asked if anyone felt as lonely as she did. She received so much more support for that one tweet than anything else she ever posted.
The Hard Question
Lotte Brouwer is a lifestyle and travel blogger with Yes Please, and she uses her Instagram and Twitter to promote her site. Her photos feature her living it up in gorgeous spots that that most people will never go.
She’s got tons of shots of herself lounging on remote tropical beaches with a glass of champagne in her hand. She and her loyal pup travel to ancient cities to sightsee. She also gets invited to gorgeous estates to report on their décor. Yet, as is so often true, life isn’t quite as glamorous as it seems.
The blogger realized that social media had a tendency to isolate people rather than bring them together. She wrote about the phenomenon on her blog:
“Ironically, social media doesn’t feel like the right place to be open, honest, and, well, social. Instead of being used as a platform to connect with people, social media has become a way to project a filtered and edited reality – and I’m guilty of that too. It’s a place for posting pictures of coffees and memes to get likes, rather than actually connecting with people.”
Lotte tweeted out to her faithful followers one day, “Anyone else get a crippling sense of loneliness sometimes? I don’t like to bare my soul online, but is there anyone out there?”
Not Real Life
She worried that the out-of-character question might turn people off at first, then something amazing happened. She said, “It felt very vulnerable posting something like that online, in public, and immediately I felt like taking it down – until I noticed that people were starting to respond that they were also feeling the same.” She got hundreds of public and private responses of support from people she knew and had never met.
Twitter user @PyschCounsellor offered her expert advice, saying, “Absolutely! Lots of us out here – I hope knowing we’re here will help ease the sense of isolation.”
User @jessicamayadam said, “When everyone puts their lives on social media, it seems like everyone is so happy and content. No one ever talks about what happens offline.”
Open and Honest
Lotte realized that people rarely put their true feelings on social media, especially not those of loneliness. She continued, “It also felt sad that something that is so common is also so rarely talked about.” She explained that she was contacted by mothers who felt that their friends have fallen by the wayside and from people who moved to new cities to work and had trouble making friends.
“I heard from people who have come from broken families or moved around a lot, and don’t feel like they have much of a support network around them, and from a few who have surrounded themselves with people that are toxic and make them feel crappy and empty,” she stated about what her followers told her.
Lotte and her new-found friends may make more of an effort to be honest on their social media so that their friends and followers can get a better sense of the person behind all of the cute pictures and check-ins.
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