Here are the stories the women in your life aren't telling you
Wow! It’s 2016. Hillary ran for president! We’ve come so far! Misogyny is over and people of all genders, races, and sexual orientations are exactly equal!
JK, that’s not true at all and the women of Reddit are here to prove it. For anyone who thinks that sexism and gendered expectations don’t play a huge part in all of our daily lives (yes, men too—but that’s a different article), here are some examples of the little things that you may not realize are happening to the women around you every single day.
It’s always PMS
If I’m upset about something at work, no matter how genuine – I am immediately assumed to be PMSing.
I manage a team of 10 people and work as a liason between several departments. Every day I put out fires before they get a chance to get nasty. If I get stressed out by my job, “oh she must be PMSing, she’s on fire.”
If my male counterparts are angry/stressed, “Oh he’s under a lot of stress, I feel sorry for him.”
“Wait it out!”
Medical issues are brushed off as pms or period cramps a lot.
I went to the ER for depression this year. I told the doctor I was on my period and he asked if I wanted to go home and “wait it out” to be sure it wasn’t just my hormones (uhh. Yeah. It is hormones. My body isn’t making the ones that keep me from wanting to kill myself??). I also was told that my severe abdominal pain was probably just my period when I actually had a UTI and severe case of mesenteric adenitis. The doctor went from “I think you have appendicitis” to “oh it’s just a bad period” as soon as I told them I had light spotting.
She’s not asking for all that much…
I’m a woman with a science PhD. I don’t know how many times I’ve been introduced to a room by just my first name by my superiors. Then, they move to my (male) colleague and introduce him as Dr. Smith.
There’s no easy way to correct that behaviour in the moment without looking like you have a huge ego. And I don’t actually care to be called doctor… I’d just like the same level of respect that my male colleagues are given.