One thing people love to do on the Internet above all else is judge others and tell them how to live their lives.
Let’s get one thing straight: While it may be fun to see how other people live (or how they appear to live based on their social media), your life belongs to YOU and the choices you want to make.
On the other hand, I think we can all agree that some things are just, well, odd. Now I’m no parent, but who hasn’t seen people with children fighting online about how to raise them properly? Do this, don’t do that, experts recommend this, my family doesn’t do that— the arguments could last for weeks.
At the end of the day, you decide how to raise your kids. But there are some practices and standards we could all agree upon. And smothering your kids to the point of causing them a failure to launch is probably not the way to go.
People were asked to share the worst examples of helicopter parenting they’ve seen, and these stories will make you feel so sorry for the kids.
Trouble, Major Trouble
When I was 15 the parents of a kid in my school year drove 7 hours to save their pride and joy from watching Casino Royale on the coach’s on-board DVD player driving back from a school trip. The best part about it is that he must have asked our teacher what the film was in advance and then told his mum. (rdc20)
I’ve got this vision of the kid stepping off the coach in a tuxedo with a Martini in one hand and a ravishing woman in the other.
“It is too late mother… the damage has been done” (RalfHorris)
15-y.o. genius girl arrived on our small liberal arts college campus. Her parents made her check in by phone every time she got back from classes, randomly called during the evening to make sure she was still there, had the RA spying on her every move, and picked her up Friday at 2 PM. She said that dad paid the phone bill so he could see every call she made (this was before cell phones or the internet).
She loved poetry. We had a poetry slam on Wednesday nights at the student union cafe. She wanted to go, but they feared she would become too passionate in public. She took a risk and went anyway; they happened to call five minutes before she got back, and then kept calling until she answered. She told them she’d been in the bathroom, but then they started calling her friends (they’d made her highlight names in a campus student directory) and in just a few minutes they got a well-meaning fellow student to admit she was at the poetry night.
Her mom and dad showed up before midnight to move her back home. We never saw her again. (WallySock)
More About Cats
I had a friend in high school whose mom was terrible. Every time there was a party (and, mind you, most of my friends were Mormon so they were supervised, appropriate parties) she would come just to make sure her daughter wasn’t getting into trouble. She wouldn’t let her watch pg-13 movies (even at 17), had a strict curfew, and became a constant and judgemental fixture at every social event. One time she called me a slut because she saw me kiss a boy at a school dance (she wasn’t chaperoning, she was just there to watch her daughter). The best story though was one time my friends and I went to my house to watch a scary movie. Sheltered friend comes. Helicopter mom shows up. My dear mother distracted her in the kitchen so my friend could have a little peace and just be a teenager. My mom later said she had no idea what to talk to her about so they talked about cats for 2 hours. My mom is a saint. (tonysbeard)