Independent women send those “I don’t need anything” text messages with rapid confidence and keep their stoic facial expressions on point when they feel like breaking down. It is with these behaviors and pseudo traits that they build a metaphorical wall around their hearts and invite only those who like to live outside their boundaries to stay. Independent women go for emotionally unavailable me because she knows he’ll keep his distance, only to toss him an occasional dinner date or smile to keep the relationship alive.
And what of the men who desire to be their forever love, to really live life with them, and truly embark on commitment? Men like that can’t even see beyond independent women’s walls. Suddenly, it’s the independent women who become the hidden ones, the emotionally unavailable.
Comes With a Price
Fierce independence comes with a price to pay. It’s the price of loneliness, and they pay that toll with regularity until they are emotionally bankrupt. It’s easier to drag out relationships with emotionally unavailable men who will never be there for them than to sacrifice their control and really let someone in. To the overly independent woman, nothing is scarier than sharing their decision making with another person; nothing could be even more terrifying than allowing their partner to see the raw parts of them. So instead, she settles for forever emotionally unavailable men.