That's gotta hurt right in the feels.
My good friend was dating this guy for nearly two years.
I could tell things were getting a bit stale with them, one day when we went out to get lunch she told me that she was going to break it off with the guy.
She seemed far more stressed about hurting the guy, he was an alright person in my book, but anyhoo she is telling me how she is going to do it and was asking for advice.
Right in the middle of me giving her some input, the guy comes in and looks a bit frantic, she must’ve told him that she was going there to meet me.
He musters up the courage and walks right to our table, completely ignoring me, gets on one knee and pulls out the ring. The dude was shaking so much, and I was in awe of the worst timing ever, that my mouth was open in shock. People around that I was excited so everyone gathers around the table starts cheering, the guy asks my friend and my friend just got up and walked out to her car and drove off.
I almost died from second-hand embarrassment. All I remember if gasps and snickering from the people near me and he just sat in her place looking crushed. I didn’t know what to say. I feel kinda bad so I just got the check ASAP and gave him a pat on the back.
He is doing better, the last I heard, this has been about a year now. My friend is still recovering from the whole ordeal lol. (Foxy-Jessica)
I had a couple of friends that had been seriously involved since college. They felt that marriage was a tool of the patriarchy, was only a piece of paper, etc. 6 years on and the relationship was still going strong.
They decided they wanted a kid. She got pregnant and things were going well. One night they had a serious discussion and decided that since there was going to be a baby they really needed to figure out the legal implications. They decided it was best if they got married so that there wouldn’t be any question of who takes care of the kid if something happened to one of them etc.
A little while later the guy realized that he was going to get married but it was decided more or less in a discussion after weighing the costs and benefits. Not very romantic. He decided, “Eff it, if we’re going to get married I should do this properly.”
So he plans and makes a fancy meal, candles, wine (with champagne at the ready), the whole 9 yards. At what he thought was the right moment, got down on his knee, presented her with a ring, and asked her to marry him. She looked aside and said, “Actually, I’ve been thinking about that a little more…”
She turned him down. I learned about this when he called me up to vent. He was hot, anger was his go to emotion. She had already agreed, it should have been a great moment for the both of them but instead he felt humiliated and foolish. I couldn’t blame him, after all she had already agreed to get married. Talk about a slam dunk marriage proposal lol.
They were still way into each other and did end up getting married once the kid was born. They’ve now been together for over 20 years but at the time I thought that their relationship was done. (isaacc7)
Just For Spite
Not me. But my father worked with a guy who had a very bad experience, which he recounted to me. In essence, there was this guy who took way too long to pop the question, it was like 7 or 8 years. The couple were in their thirties.
Anyway, dude finally pops the question and the woman said something to the effect of, “I made my mind up four years ago. I decided then, that I would never marry you, and I’ve been waiting four years for this very moment. No I will not marry you, you are a loser and a coward, your window ran out a long time ago. I’ve been waiting all this time for the moment I could say no and see the expression on your face.”
Needless to say, this destroyed the guy, even to this day. It’s really sad. Not sure what happened to the woman, but I’m guessing she’s either imprisoned for being a serial killer or living an otherwise s**tty life (one hopes). It is perhaps the most cruel thing I’ve ever heard. (Er-c)