It's not like you want to lie to them!
It may be the hardest question you will ever ask, or the easiest if you’re confident that they’ll say yes. Dropping hints or having long conversations about getting married make it so much easier to propose, but what about the people who don’t quite the hint that their partner isn’t ready? Or those that think that proposing to their significant other will make them want to stay? How can you handle such a hard rejection? And how do you say to no to someone who loves you that much when you know that the time just isn’t right? Well these people have lived to tell the tale and spill all the tea…
Was proposed to at the captains dinner on a cruise ship in front of the entire dining room. We had discussed marriage and we had both agreed we weren’t ready legit 2 weeks beforehand. Said yes so as not to embarrass him, then when we got back to the room told him no and confronted him for putting me on the spot. We got into such a violent argument that we had security called on us and were forcibly separated for a night because the neighbors were afraid for our safety. (Cant-Take-Jokes)
When I was 16, I dated a guy who was 18. We weren’t serious or anything. Just fun group-type dates.
One night completely out of the blue, he proposed. I was so shocked I just blurted out, “No.” Then he spent the rest of the date trying to convince me. I told him I was way too young to even think about that.
Next day, a friend says, “Hey, did you hear guy is getting married?” For about 10 seconds I’m completely confused. I know I said no. I said no over and over again. Then friend says, “Yeah, he’s marrying (some random girl I didn’t even know).
Turns out, I was his “public” girlfriend. She was his “private” girlfriend.
As far as I can figure, after I turned him down, he went to ask her.
Dodged a bullet with that one. (rusty0123)
Mom Doesn’t Know Best
I said no. Twice. To the same man. We had only been together a few months, and he’d been married more than a few times before. The first time I said no, he cried and cried and cried, a couple hours later asked again. I again said no. Told him it was too soon. Then I let my mother get in my ear with her “don’t let this one go” bologna. I said yes the third time, on the condition our engagement lasted a year. Him and my mom steamrolled me, and we married a couple months later. I put him on my health insurance, and he had 3 surgeries that he’d put off because he couldn’t afford it, then moved in with our realtor. He was engaged less than 2 weeks later. Our entire marriage lasted 8 months. I hear he’s on wife # 12 now. (Napalm-Ninja-Bunny)