Yes, people still do arranged marriages today
It sounds like a nightmare: Being forced to wed someone that you don’t even know and then expected to be intimate and have children with them. But some cultures around the world still see it as an endearing tradition that’s more about joining two entire families instead of joining two people in a marriage. Sometimes, they work out quite well, but other times, things go horribly wrong for the couple. Once the ceremony is over and the guests leave, what happens on the wedding night of two people who just met?
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Never
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My wife was picked by my father’s family in a move of desperation. We had little money to work with during Jordan’s economic down. And we needed the marriage to get government money. The girl my dad chose was very quiet and awkward. She had already found other men in her life and had made a point to tell my I could never satisfy. I tried to at least get along with her but she never decided to like me. Our marriage eventually failed and it cost my family a great deal of money. (Fixer43)
Not Too Shabby
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My parents and aunt arranged a marriage for me and I traveled back to my country, met her once before the marriage. First night she was really shy and kept hiding under the blanket and pulling it away from me while giggling, nothing happened that night, then she got a call the next day from her mother and they kept talking for half an hour.
It happened then later that night when we were in bed innocently watching TV, then she looked at me and said maybe the first complete sentence: “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do” in a nervous voice. So I laughed and played it funny, then started gently kissing, hugging, and joked a bit then two hours later we (made love) and now I’ve two kids from her and she turned 26 last month.
Arranged isn’t as bad as it sounds, but back in my place it’s normal to have arranged marriages and even marriages without seeing the bride. (SpaceTimeSpace)
Magical
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I’m from California and had an “arranged” marriage to a German guy, when I was 18. I grew up in the Family Federation for World Peace aka the Unification Church aka the “Moonies”. Our parents set us up and we emailed for 4 months before we attended the Blessing Marriage Ceremony.
We met in person only a few weeks before we were married, and we both liked each other a lot! Definitely one of those cheesy love-at-first-sight kind of experiences! We [did it] for the first time only a week or so after getting married. We had a mini honeymoon in Vienna, and were pretty much in bed the whole time. Overall, the entire experience was fantastic and amazing and magical.
Its been more than 5 years and I’m still head-over-heels in love with this guy! [deleted user]