These breakups led to better things
You may think that you’ve found the love of your life, and it’s only natural to ask that person to marry you. But just because they said yes doesn’t mean that they’re taking that commitment seriously. Heading toward the altar can scare people into trying to end their relationships because it’s all becoming too real. They may push their partner away or cheat fearing that they’re going to be trapped in a marriage before they’re ready. At the worst, an engagement can be a final attempt to save a wavering relationship. Unfortunately, it only harms things more.
Though it hurt to break it off at the time, these people realized that it was for the best in the end.
She started hanging out with an old group of high school friends and just changed. She became extremely nasty over wedding plans, telling me we had to have the exact same number of guests on both sides. If I had one more guest than she did, she made me remove someone from my side.
I knew if I moved forward it would have ended in divorce, so I just ended it before it got to that. (JoeyBlaze)
She had anger issues before I popped the question, but I ignored them. Waited six years for it to change and hopefully get better all the while trying everything I could to help (helped pay her college, let her move in, took her entire family to Hawaii, paid for counseling, etc).
Then my dad died. Nothing hits you harder than knowing I didn’t just waste my time, but I wasted his too. He’ll never see his grandkids or be at my wedding or be there for all the things he should have been had I manned up and moved on when I knew things weren’t going to work like he told me years ago.
It’s my biggest regret in life, but something I won’t make again. I broke it off, and I am much happier now and looking for that special someone. (CrashTestDummie)
Got engaged to my pregnant girlfriend. Four months before the wedding, she calls it off saying she doesn’t feel the love anymore. A week after that, I came home early from my second job to surprise her and see if we can work things out and found her in bed with the guy who would have been my best man.
Turns out they’ve been shacking up for six months, and she planned to leave me for him as soon as he broke things off with his wife (who was to be her maid of honor).
I decided to speed up the process by telling his wife what I found. Instead of leaving her, the guy ditches my fiancée to try to salvage his marriage. (Toofpasties)