The devil is in the details
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It was only a matter of time before the news got involved and the story blew up even further. Was this still about the kids? Although Grayson’s dad seemed pretty upset about the ordeal, he himself admits that the tournament was just for fun and that the kids would only go home with a medal and a jacket.
And although Todd Powell claims they weren’t fairly warned about the boys’ pants, league Program Director Gordon Davis had a different side of the story.
Though the story went viral as a cruel and unfair slight against the winning team, Program Director Gordon Davis later posted an impressively lengthy post to Newfoundland Youth Bowling’s Facebook page to tell his side of the story.
According to Davis, parents, children, and teams are given multiple notices about the strict uniform code observed within the league. “Mr Todd Powell knew full aware of the dress code and sent his child to Provincials knowing that it was against the rules. There was another bowler on the team also with grey pants on who knew it was against our rules but sent their child anyway! What parent would do this? Was it to see if we would notice it or get away with it? Who knows but they knew it was against our rules. Why is NL YBC in the wrong here when parents knowingly broke the rules and we are the bad guys.”
“I then asked three to four more tournament supervisors to go over and look at the pants on the teams and advise me of their thoughts. All people involved agreed that the pants were not appropriate and I approached the Program Director, who was their coach, and advised her that the pants were illegal and I would have to get word from the other two Executive members who were at Holiday Lanes. Word never came through from those two members until the end of the second game. We could not stop the tournament and embarrass the kids when the tournament was already started. The Program Director actually told the other child when the kids first arrived that her pants were illegal and advise me of that when I gave her notice during the first game. However, the Program Director did not advise the parents of the problem or our Executive after we advised all Program Directors on Friday night that proper dress code was only accepted. That is the Program Director’s and coach’s responsibility and duty to police that to ensure all compliancy to our rules.
I did gather the parents after the shift was done to explain the situation to them because the Program Director/Coach did not inform the team or parents of our decision. It had to be done. While explaining the situation to the parents and family of the bowlers a lady stormed out of the room and obviously made a scene at the alley in taking her child Grayson crying out of the alley.
The other parents at the time understood the problem we were faced with understood why we had to make the decision we did. No one knows how hard this situation was to advise of the disqualification and to make this decision but it was made by the whole Executive and rules are rules.
Everyone is writing comments that are untrue and inappropriate due to not knowing the truth of the situation.
It had nothing to do with how the other teams were doing. The Program Director was put on notice during the first game not after the tournament was over or the third game.”
And that’s not even half the post! But after Grayson’s dad admitted he was mistaken about the situation, Davis publicly accepted his apology.
Problem Solved… for Now
On March 1, Davis took to the league’s Facebook page again to announce that he and Mr. Powell had spoken again, and that Grayson and his teammates were going to be allowed to keep their first-place medals— their win simply wouldn’t be recorded as such.
All’s well that ends well, eh? The men seemed to conclude the ordeal in a polite, typical Canadian manner, but one has to wonder what their motivations were in the first place to blow this out of proportion. And did this all boil down to the physical medal, or the significance of a win?
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