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This Desperate Housewives Star Just Came Out As Gay

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But He Felt He Had To Stay In The Closet For His Career

Charlie Carver


But Charlie noted that once he and twin brother Max landed their big breaks on the hit U.S. drama Desperate Housewives, he had to “bisect” himself into a public and private persona, making his relationship with his sexuality even more complicated.

“I did not want to be defined by my sexuality,” Charlie wrote. “Sure, I am a proud gay man, but I don’t identify as a Gay man, or a GAY man, or just gay. I identify as a lot of things, these various identifications and identities taking up equal space and making up an ever-fluid sense of Self.”

But that’s not all — keep reading to find out how Charlie kept his sexuality a secret all these years!

This Isn’t Coming Out, Because He Was Never “In”

Charlie Carver

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He went on to note that he “hadn’t really ever been “in,”adding, “I tried to live as authentically as I’ve known how to, as a gay guy, since that concept became available to me, only once or twice intentionally dodging the ever ill-timed question with the subtext that might have as well read ‘ARE YOU GAY???’ I’ve lived ‘out’, not feeling the need to announce so. I was comfortably out in my private life. And for a time, that was enough.”

He Hopes He Can Inspire Others With His Own Voice

Charlie Carver

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Charlie wrapped up his message by sharing his hope that his “coming out” will help others who can relate to his struggle as much as it has helped himself.

“Let the record show this — I self-identify as gay,” he wrote. “Does that really matter anymore? As a young man, I needed a young man in Hollywood to say that — and without being a d**k about it, I owe it to myself, more than anything, to be who I needed when I was younger.”